23 Things To Do Instead Of Getting Engaged Before You’re 23

Damn, I needed this.

Wander Onwards


As 2013 wraps up, I’ve been noticing more and more people getting engaged and/or married under the age of 23.

I get it.

It’s cold outside… you want to cuddle and talk about your feelings… life after graduation is a tough transition… so why not just cut to the chase and get married, right?  It’s hip. It’s cool. You get to wear clothing that wouldn’t normally be socially acceptable at the dive bar you frequent with the $5 beers.  Eff it. YOLO. YOMO! You only marry once…

Oh wait.

The divorce rate for young couples is more than twice the national average. Divorce is no longer a staple in a midlife crisis, but rather, something that SEVENTEEN Magazine should probably be printing on. Headlines could read,

“How to budget for your prom AND your wedding in the same year!”

“What’s HOT: Kids raising Kids.”

“Why your Mom doesn’t really…

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“To see things thousands of miles away, things hidden behind walls and within rooms, things dangerous to come to, to draw closer, to see and be amazed.”

Life is many things. Often difficult to understand, but essential to be lived fully in order to be experienced. While there is life, there’s hope. 

Let’s talk…

You and I. Let’s sit right down and have a little discussion, face-to-face, up close and personal. I want to look across at you, stare into your being and have you fess up to everything… right here. right now.

Ever feel like having those conversations with yourself? I do. The kind where I’m ready and willing to lift myself by the shoulders with a tight grip and slam my ass down at the interrrogation table. I need to drill myself for a bit and force the conversation until everything has been said that needs to be put into words.  I need to ask myself about where it is that I really want to go, how I want to get there, and what I’m willing to sacrifice in order to get there.

There are only six days left of 2013. As the new year approaches, I can’t help but look to the future in hope of better and brighter things ahead. 2013 was a tough year for me full of lots of growth within myself personally and academically. There are lot’s of things that I am thankful for and also many moments of lessons learned. I have been blessed with a life that isn’t intended to be a cake walk and for good reason. As I go through the tough times, I contiually walk away with a lesson that I carry with me to apply in all that I do moving forward.


I think today as I sit and type this little post out, I speak to myself in saying: “It’s time that we had the talk, Lindsey.” “It’s time for you to look within yourself to be that person; daughter, sister, friend, grandaughter, roommate, future educator, student, etc., that you’ve alway dreamt of being.”

As hard as it is to admit, I think I got a little sidetrack in making everything happen for myself that I lost focus in who I desire to be as I grow. Sometimes it’s difficult to define. For now, I just most wish for the ability to forgive myself for the mistakes I made throughout the year of 2013. I wish for the ability to forgive those that may have hurt me throughout the year of 2013. I wish to forget the moments of despair and simply rememeber the good.

People experience much worse on a day-to-day basis than I experienced in all of my 2013 year of life. Even so, I must allow myself to reflect and then move forward.


Here’s to all of the possibilities in the world.


With gratitude,


Happiness, recognition, and beautiful possibilities

And it can work for you when you know that it will

When you live the life of always being a shoulder to cry on, there comes the days when you really just need someone to lend you their shoulder to cry on. There are days when the figurative shoulder, even if that’s the one you want most, isn’t enough. There comes a day when an actual shoulder to be there to soak up the tears and take the weight is essential. I’m a tough girl. I’m skilled at swallowing my pride and pushing through especially when times get tough. But there are also times when I am just as weak as the next pre-Madonna. I want your hand to hold. Your shoulder to cry a few exhausted tears on, and just one moment to call you my supporter. 

Movement 515 + Waukee Middle School

My home. Loveeee.


On Tuesday, we had the opportunity to perform and lead workshops for 8th grade students in Waukee! We built, we collaborated, we shared personal stories and we connected students across class, color, and school district lines in order to spread truth and the notion that our youth are very much so present and alive with the necessary and inspirational skills to lead. Collaboration = Power!

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Like A Stone Wall

The Better Man Project ™



In the first battle of Bull Run, several Confederate units fell into panic as the battle was raging on. Thomas Jackson, a brilliant general who was known to inspire courage in his troops pointed to Jackson and said, “There stands Jackson like a stone wall!” This call to action rallied the troops and urged the men to gather their courage to regroup to fight on.

Yesterday I was on the verge of  tears all day. It hasn’t been easily lately. I’ve been under a lot of pressure and everything seems to be piling up all at once. It’s tough. Real tough. I had this urge to just run earlier…and then somehow Stonewall Jackson popped into my head. “There stands Jackson like a stone wall!” I just kept repeating that in my head. Things could be a lot worse. Bullets could be zipping around you…you could be unprotected on a horse…and…

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30 Quotes That Will Make You Rethink What “Love” Means

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